“The truth is incontrovertible. Malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is”. Winston Churchill
I naturally steer clear of sensational news of sexual harassment, racism, xenophobia, religion, domestic violence to mention a few. The reason being that when emotions get mixed with facts when rational thinking is defined along the path of conservatism and liberalism any argument ends in pyrrhic victory [an exercise in futility].
When I watched the interview with Busola Dakolo on Ynaija! Alleging been raped by Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo.
It is always going to be a sad day when news like this break regardless of where the chip falls.
My intention is not to judge their case or discern any truth but once again it stimulates reasoning and opportunity to gauge the perception of the society on such issues.
No doubt progress is being made when it comes to issues like rape, sexual harassment, especially in this global era of ‘Me too Movement ‘ ‘Time, is up’. However, progress is arduous and slow.
The reality is, there cannot be serious progress if society continues to muddle facts with emotions and bias.
What makes this Dakolo vs Fatoyinbo’s case unique is the fact that it is causing divide mainly on fanatism. Both parties involved are public figures in their own rights.
Many of these accusations go unnoticed and even close to home sometimes because the victim’s story is often overwhelmed by the imposing stature of the aggressor. Victims are scared to speak because of backlash not necessarily from the accused but the public. What took you so long to say something? It could have been consensual! She is promiscuous!!! It is cheap blackmail!!!
People who respect and follow Pastor Biodun will always defend him zealously while followers or fans of Busola(and Timi) will believe her truth because of their affinity for the Dakolos.
This is a question about the morality of our society:
Are we really committed to rooting out the social menace?
In this case,
• If the accuser is speaking the truth, well these are perilous times and such hypocrisy should not be allowed in the guise of religion. There is no expiry date of telling the truth, such act is reserved for the brave. As Winston Churchill put it: “The truth is incontrovertible. Malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there is”
• Also if Pastor Biodun is innocent (as he is entitled to be presumed), its also unfortunate because regardless he has suffered goodwill damage once the news broke. The situation will only lend credence to the saying ‘society build their heroes only to tear them down’
This is not the time for sentiments or time to be a follower or fan, it is time to support truth and healthy fiduciary relationships between Spiritual leaders and their followers, Fathers and Daughters, Boss and subordinates, etc.
There is always going to be spurious allegations and there will always be people taking advantage of their positions of trust against vulnerable people.
Rape is a social menace and we need to clamp down and take a stand as a people that no more!
Especially when it involves people in high places and position of trust.
Nobody is too big to go to jail! And we can not continue to sensationalize this show of shame.
I expect a backlash from those whose emotions are running high or purely trolling but I follow the words of Dante: The hottest places in Hell are reserved for those who, in a period of moral crisis, maintain their neutrality.”
Just my two kobos!!